What culture are you building around yourself? How do (or don’t) you communicate value to each other?
I believe the biggest issue surrounding culture today is that we don’t know how to get along with each other when we disagree. We have not learned to communicate with each other in conflict. We have not learned to look past the small and menial things that we turn into massive mountains. We have learned to dishonor and degrade people based on our perspective or version of events. Look at the rising divorce rates, the inability for the UN to even agree on basic standards of human rights, the government constantly in turmoil over who is in and who is out and at one point, our nation unable to vote in a government at all. We’re so conflicted all the time.
The culture we build around ourselves – i.e. how we treat others, how we love others, how we serve others – is the #1 key to building maintaining safe and loving relationships. If i don’t learn to create an environment around myself that is healthy and allows other people to be themselves around me, then i have not understood what love really is.
If the culture i build around myself is one where i am angry, self involved, conceited, stubborn and judgemental – then others who come into my space will only ever feel pressured, judged and anxious. However, if i work hard at creating an environment around me that is loving, accepting, kind and values the other, i will only ever make others feel accepted, loved, and free.
I grew up being bullied in school. I spent most days loathing going to school in primary school because i was left out and teased. My best friends even joined in on the bullying… so i left the school.
We do this thing that when someone is different to us, we make them feel so worthless, they have to leave the room. We’ve learned to disregard and devalue each other so much that if we don’t have the same opinions and ideas, then one of us can’t stay around in the friendship any longer. One of us has to go.
I’ve thought about this a lot and a question i ask others often is, “how do we learn to live in community with one another when we disagree?”
The challenge is what are you doing to bring reconciliation and restoration to relationships with people you don’t agree with or have a different opinion to?
How can you learn to live counter-culturally and offer an alternative? How will you love people even with your differences?
Juliette Warnes, founder of Feather and Fire, is stoked about Jimmy Fallon, Saturday Night Live and anything of sensible comedic value. She seeks to draw the best out of everyone she meets whilst maintaining the value of humility and transparency. In 2007 Juliette completed a Bachelor degree in Youth Work min Counselling and Ministry at Tabor College, Adelaide. Currently Juliette resides in Brisbane, QLD. You might find her at folk music festivals or gigs around the place. Juliette works for LYQ as In-School Trainer – preparing and delivering leadership workshops for young people in schools across QLD.